FOLLOWING MY INSTINCTS

Someone set a meeting with me to offer a project for the opening of a new spa (let's call her Karen).   Everything sounded good except something about her and her boss (let's call him Shane) didn't quite sit right with me.  Don't get me wrong, I've known Karen for quite a while now --- we're not super close or anything but we've hung out a couple of times and apart from some insecurities stemming from an ex-weight problem and a failed marriage, she's alright.  Anyway, we wrapped up that meeting with agreements on next steps, etc.

The week after, they both came to an event of mine and in that event I noticed that they were both quite touchy-feely with each other.  Well, she was separated from her husband and so was the guy so whatever right?  My only issue was that they worked together, never a good idea to crap in your own backyard right?  So I asked her:  "Are you and Shane sleeping together?" I was expecting either a "no" or a "nah, we just like to flirt" or "is it that obvious? we just clicked and it happened", etc.  Instead, I got an "Of course darling!  That's how I work!"  Whoah...

Don't get me wrong, I'm not judging.  Good for her that she knows what she wants and will do anything to get it.  Good for her that she obviously doesn't have any limits.  I, personally, got turned off by it and instinctively replied:  "That's NOT how I work!"

So, even if almost all of the people involved in this project are good friends, I'm afraid I had to decline.  I can't work with her knowing what her work ethic (or lack of) is and I certainly don't want anyone to think I'm willing to do what she does.  This is unfortunate for me because I hear that the spa is coming out beautifully but that's ok, I can always just support her by being a customer :-)  She is still my friend and I wish her all the luck in the world.